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2026
September
August
- The Four Roles of ParentingAug 31
- Self of the Therapist: The Capacities That Make a Balanced TherapistAug 28
- Why Don’t People Listen to Me?Aug 27
- Why Can’t I Change Even When I Understand My Patterns?Aug 24
- How Parenting Made Me More ControllingAug 20
- How to Make Problems Navigable | Dialectic and Deconstruction SolutionsAug 19
- What If Hope Is Contagious Too?Aug 18
- Can AI conduct therapy? | Will AI Replace Therapists?Aug 12
- What Makes Your Partner Feel Loved? The Pathways to ImportanceAug 11
- How to Make Your Partner Feel Important: The Attachment Habit Most Couples MissAug 07
- When Politics Isn’t Really About Politics: Curiosity, Culture, and the Operating Systems We ShareAug 06
- Exercise Snacks: How 10 Seconds Can Build Both Physical and Psychological StrengthAug 05
- The Economy Is a Game We All Live InsideAug 02
July
June
May
April
- The Realities of Rigid IdentityApr 30
- Using Immediacy in Therapy | Staying With Experience When the Mind Moves OnApr 28
- Intellectualization in Relationships | When Insight Replaces ContactApr 27
- Co-Parenting with an Emotionally Immature Parent | Staying Oriented Within Unstable RelationshipsApr 22
- How to Listen Empathically | Staying Present When Defensiveness Takes OverApr 14
- Anxiety, Codependence, and What It Actually Means to Try in a RelationshipApr 01
February
- An Integrative Alternative to the DSM | A Coherence Map of Mental HealthFeb 17
- Why Do People Get Divorced? | The Myth We Blame and What Is Actually HappeningFeb 12
- The Question of Enough | Stimulation, Fulfillment, and the Physiology of ContentmentFeb 10
- It’s Not My Job To Make You Happy | Understanding Responsibility in RelationshipsFeb 05
- Learning to See ClearlyFeb 04
- The Necessity of AdversityFeb 04
2025
December
- Social Anxiety and the Burden of Control | From Managing Perception to Living in CongruenceDec 11
- Love, Acceptance, and Growth | What Real Love Actually Asks of UsDec 08
- Fear of Abandonment vs. Integrity | Choosing Which Fear We Live WithDec 04
- Double Binds in Co-Parenting After DivorceDec 03
- Five Core Tasks of Adolescent DevelopmentDec 03
November
- Somatic Descent Into the Hidden Narrative: A Clinical Vignette about Anger and GriefNov 20
- Nature, Nurture, and the Rhythm of Our Relationships | When Strengths Become Overused SkillsNov 13
- Emotional and Social Intelligence as a Living Balance | A Map for When You Want to GrowNov 12
- When Compassion Silences Self-WorthNov 11
- The Fractal Field Model of IntelligenceNov 10
- The Fractal Field of Mental HealthNov 06
October
September
August
July
June
- When Intimacy Feels Unsafe: Understanding Fear Responses in Trusting RelationshipsJun 26
- Dialectic and Deconstruction Solutions (DDS) 1st DraftJun 25
- Why Dialectics and Deconstruction Are Essential for Solving Real ProblemsJun 24
- Interviening with ExtremismJun 11
- Resilience, Humility, and the Temptation to Be NeuroticJun 05
- State Shifting: Breaking the Feedback Loop of RuminationJun 03
- The Practice of Differentiation: Becoming the Observer of OurselvesJun 03
May
April
2019
2017
December
November
October
September
June
March
- Parenting Paradigm | a level system to conceptualize parenting strategiesMar 23
- Happy Relationship – loving another as yourself – loving we to love meMar 21
- The Depression BubbleMar 20
- Early Childhood Questions to Promote BondingMar 15
- Choice is OppressionMar 10
- Accepting, condoning, and boundariesMar 09
- A metaphor for the relationship between control and sufferingMar 07
- Playful Communicative Connection EnactmentMar 06
- Why Democracy FailedMar 01
2016
June
2013
December
November
March
February
2012
2011
December
- The difference between good intentions and good actions = understanding, humility, and empathyDec 26
- Face your Suffering on your way towards Freedom and Balance | The Effects of ResistanceDec 20
- Adlerian psychotherapy – an overviewDec 13
- What is a systemic approach in psychotherapy? Family systems theory interventionDec 13
- What is the Difference between a Psychologist, a Psychotherapist, a Psychiatrist, a Social Worker, a LPC, a LMFT, a LSCW, a PsyD, a PHD………Dec 06
November
October
- Overcoming feelings of Shame | Shame avoided will stay quite the same…Oct 20
- Cognitive Behavioral Therapy simplifiedOct 15
- Relationship Help | “My partner says that I don’t listen” | how to meet the emotional needs of your partnerOct 15
- The Sex vs. Emotional Intimacy debate | how to make both partners feel loved in a relationshipOct 13
- Authenticity and Stress | you are healthiest when you are your real self | “don’t plant corn in the sand”Oct 10
- Relationship feel stuck? Try pretending that you don’t know everything about your partnerOct 08
- Mind won’t stop ruminating? Take your shoes off to encourage a state of mindfulnessOct 07
- Drink too much? Try being yourself in your life… choose to stop inhibiting yourselfOct 06
August
- Asking Clients Permission | offering choices to clients in counseling | tips for psychotherapistsAug 27
- Asking for feedback in therapy | collaborative psychotherapy | empowering the client | tips for psychotherapistsAug 26
- 30 Common questions psychotherapist should be able to answer succinctly | tips for therapists | how to market your private psychotherapy practiceAug 25
- Teenage Drinking | Solving Youth Substance Abuse | restraint theory, individuation, overpopulation, cultural priorities and freewillAug 24
- Immediacy | tips for therapists | How to use immediacy | experiential techniquesAug 23
- Weight loss – what does that food mean to you? Insight, reflection, and replacement in achieving weight loss goals.Aug 22
- Parenting fundamentals – The basics for co-parenting your childrenAug 16
- Why should I focus on my Breathing? – Worry reduction.Aug 04
- Realistic Weight Loss Work Sheet – Keep what you love, substitute and add where you can, and remove the unimportantAug 04
- Euphoria and gratitude… a runners high at 9,000 feetAug 03
- Forming Secure Attachments – Handout for parents and caregiversAug 03
- Components of the Obesity and Nutrition Problem in our Shared CountryAug 03
- Why some fail to lose Weight – Restraint theoryAug 02
- Synchronicity – The rattlesnake’s message of change and balanceAug 01
July
- Jung’s Theory of Synchronicity, Archetypes and the Collective UnconsciousJul 25
- Placebo effect – an underrated healerJul 12
- Addiction Intervention Debate | Increasing Freedom by fostering an increase in consciousness, reflective ability, and emotional availability | Is there always a choice or are certain stimuli too controlling?Jul 12
- Support group for teens with type 1 diabetesJul 11
- An example of ‘Auras’ and ‘Energy’ for our left brained friendsJul 11
- Compassionately Assertive – Maintaining Boundaries without Aggression – using empathy and clarity to get your needs metJul 11
- Parenting questions for couples – Questionnaire to increase synergy, collaboration, empathy, and overall understanding for couples who are co-parenting a child.Jul 06
June
- ‘not -talked-about’ themes in Human Sexuality – normalizingJun 29
- Play therapy explained | How to use play therapy | Attuning to your child | how and why it worksJun 29
- Balanced Boundaries – a metaphor about giving and taking for the health of yourself and othersJun 23
- Alcohol use and marital satisfactionJun 22
- What is empathy? How do I know if I am experiencing empathy?Jun 22
- Existentialism in PsychotherapyJun 21
- pathologizing, labels, dichotomies, existentialism and acceptanceJun 11
- Anger and Arguments – Are you defending the topic or your self?Jun 09
- Existential Recovery – Emotional freedom inherent in the choice of meaningJun 09
- Empathy building exercise – learning to be empathetic – increasing emotional understandingJun 08
- Vengeance and the EgoJun 02
- The Evolution of CBT = Mindfulness – moving from changing projections to eliminating projectionsJun 02
- Past goals driving current choices? – Overcoming your inner teenagerJun 01
May
- Who are you? How to stop conforming to expectations and to start presenting the self you would like to presentMay 31
- Problems sleeping? 10 Tips to help you sleepMay 31
- Overcoming addiction to substance – find a replacement behavior that offers a comparable result – hope involves you being both reasonable and honest with yourselfMay 25
- Setting realistic expectations and living within those realistic expectations…May 18
- Premarital counseling questions | life long commitment questionnaire | questions for a long & happy relationshipMay 18
- Strength Based Therapy – what it meansMay 17
- Understanding how your Values impact the choices that you makeMay 17
- Narrative therapy summaryMay 16
- Creating Motivation for the Change Process – Why creating a mental image of the ‘new you’ worksMay 16
- The Oppression of Creativity and Progression – How regulation, oversight, managed care, and “Big Brother” oppress growthMay 13
- Logical Reason to Change – The Inevitability of Anxiety Whether You Change or NotMay 12
- What does LPC, LSW, LMFT, PsyD, PHD, LCSW, MD, MS, MA stand for?May 12
- Why might we be misinformed about human sexuality?May 11
- What is Transference in psychotherapy – placing emotional reactions related to another onto the therapistMay 11
- What is Love? How do I know if I am in love or have experienced love? Love is selflessness and felt security… love is also a physical and emotional feelingMay 10
- 7 Health and Weight loss tips from a psychotherapist who is married to a nutritionistMay 05
- Why are people Defensive? Reducing the anxiety of changeMay 04
April
- Some stress is best leftApr 29
- Changing unhelpful beliefs – "If ____________ then I will be happy"Apr 29
- What is the meaning of Life? – To live… consciousness of consciousness in existenceApr 28
- Psychotherapy Forum – Start a new Topic and Join the Discussion in the Wellness ForumApr 27
- Mindfulness Interventions for Both the Therapist and the Client to Increase Therapeutic Effectiveness When Treating TraumaApr 26
- Human Sexuality and Stress ManagementApr 26
- Reducing suffering – How trying to avoid or control suffering often increases suffering – When to act and when to accept without actionApr 25
- Guided Visualization for Emotional Resiliency – comforting a younger youApr 21
- Structural family therapy summaryApr 18
- Tips for getting your Attachment needs met in your adult relationshipsApr 14
- Argumentative? Dichotomies in conversations lead to arguments not solutionsApr 14
- Does being drunk make you uninhibited? | alcohol, authenticity and primal instinctApr 05
- Authentic Self – Are you the work you or the outside of work you?Apr 04
- Do Therapists get Therapy? | Controlling bias and counter-transference in counselingApr 04
March
- How do you find the right therapist for you?Mar 30
- Allowing and BelievingMar 28
- Courage to use your Strength to attend to your FearMar 28
- ‘The Good Enough Sex Model’ (Metz and MaCarthy 2007) – a review and summaryMar 23
- Meditative Breath – focusing on the expansion and contraction of your chest and stomach.Mar 23
- The Science behind Emotional Intelligence: literature reviewMar 22
- Narrative therapy: the externalization of perceptionMar 21
- Michele Weiner Davis’s ‘Divorce Busting’ – a responseMar 18
- Solution Focused Therapy simplifiedMar 17
- Empathy – nature and nurtureMar 11
- A subtle difference between Narrative and Cognitive psychotherapyMar 10
- 'narrative means to theraputic ends' – book summary and reviewMar 09
- Rogerian (or Person Centered) therapy summaryMar 08
- Combined Wellness interventionMar 07
February
January
- Fear of Snakes is from the fear of snakesJan 28
- Love with the mind, the body and the spiritJan 26
- Ignorance is Bliss?Jan 24
- Anti-dogmatic types have a dogma themselvesJan 12
- A subjective interpretation of Jesus’ message about the forgiveness of sin…Jan 11
- Postmodernism – making an ‘out there’ philosophy usefulJan 06
- Chaos is the result of resisting what isJan 06
- Selfishness is also SelflessJan 04
2010
November
October
June
- FearJun 24
- ForgivenessJun 23
- Chaos, structure, rigidity, compassion and acceptanceJun 22
May
April
- the 7 things you need to create meaningful change – precursors of changeApr 26
- Attachment – why we say and emote one way when we truly feel and think a different wayApr 21
- The Talking Cure for Trauma – holding freedom – you are the lotusApr 16
- ‘Empirically based practice’ has been proven irrelevant to therapy outcomes – empiricallyApr 14
- Stating your internal feelings – acknowledge for acceptance – resistance is sufferingApr 12
- Past blame or “whose fault it is” and on to solutionsApr 08
- Externalization – you are with the problem… you are separate from the problemApr 06
- Motivation to Exercise – why it is hard and how to make it easierApr 01
March
- Harmful Interaction Patterns – which do you do and what can help?Mar 31
- Mindfulness Exercise – notice your senses without judgment =54321 presentMar 30
- Can you be too close? – Enmeshment and automatic emotions transferMar 29
- Ineffective Solution Strategies – without a simplified problem, a solution is unlikelyMar 26
- Trauma – What happens to a person who has experienced trauma and why.Mar 25
- Wellness with euphoria… sometimes what you want…you may already haveMar 24
- Mindfulness – Why it is helpful and what 'being in the present moment' meansMar 23
- Existentialism – meaning, meaninglessness and your lifeMar 22
- Timeouts for adults – conflict resolution and avoidance strategiesMar 19
- Genograms – reducing blame and finding solutions in your family treeMar 17
- Mantras while you exercise – increase your awareness of your present surroundingsMar 12
- Why Feeling Questions? – Emotional Expression Enhances BondingMar 11
- Talking with Teens– Try using authentic open-minded empathetic curiosity.Mar 10
- Relationship Sexually Stuck? – A look at your unwritten rules of engagement.Mar 09
- My Dog – the personal trainerMar 03
- The interdependence of dependence and independenceMar 01
