Thoughts from a Therapist

Psychology, Relationships, Meaning, and the Conditions that make Change

  • Accepting, condoning, and boundaries

    How do you accept what you can’t condone? what is it that your are accepting? we love people and we want them to behave in ways which will lead to the permanence of things… permanence of our relationship with them. People behave in ways that can hurt us both by insulting our systems of belief…

  • A metaphor for the relationship between control and suffering

    I often share a metaphor with my clients who find themselves in a time of suffering stemming from environmental conditions that are mostly or entirely uncontrollable. This Metaphor is most applicable in the context of caring deeply for an individual who you cannot control… an individual who is suffering themselves or bringing you significant suffering.…

  • Playful Communicative Connection Enactment

    As a teacher, therapist, and supervisor I have developed a number of enactment interventions which serve to help clients to better connect with each other. I created many of my positive ‘attunement’ based enactments to serve 2 purposes: 1.) to create more manageable interventions for beginning therapists who may not have the therapeutic leadership skill…

  • Why Democracy Failed

    This will be the beginning of a large selection of post concerning the evolution of our systems of government. Our country is hurting… and I want to help in the way that I can. My hope is that we can start moving towards evolving our Government’s operating system to more effectively meet the needs of…

  • What is the purpose of Marriage?

    What is the purpose of Marriage?

    In this post I will share some of the variables that can be experienced from a life long commitment or marriage. The purpose is to create somewhat of a road map to help you and your partner to identify the strengths of your bond and those areas that could use some attention. This could also…

  • interregulation – a simpler explanation | regulating communication

    For the sake of usability I am going to attempt at a simpler explanation of how communication can cause mutual regulation between two people – Interregulation or co- regulation. Interregulation is when two peoples’ emotional connection to each other causes an activation of the parasympathetic nervous system thereby making both parties feel relieved… connection is…

  • Parenting and Rowboats

    There is more than one way to skin a cat they say… and there is more than one way to row a boat, but if there are two people rowing that boat you better find a common way. and so it is with parenting, guiding, directing, and mentoring our young ones. family systems can and…

  • It is only fear

    Fear used to be super useful on a day to day basis… it kept us from allowing our curiosity to pick up deadly reptiles and such… it kept us in caves when big things were growling… and lurking sure, I guess fear is actually still pretty useful in that it keeps us from walking out…

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A reader’s map

Psychotherapy theories, approaches, and the questions they help us ask

No single theory explains a person. Each approach brings part of experience into focus, and each leaves something outside the frame. This map offers several ways into the writing: through the concern that brought us here, the therapeutic tradition that interests us, or the part of human experience we are trying to understand.

Start with lived experience

What are we trying to understand?

The Topics guides organize the site around recognizable questions and concerns. They are the clearest place to begin when the name of a theory matters less than the experience we are living.

Anxiety and emotional regulation

Threat, rumination, control, regulation, trauma, and the gap between insight and action.

Relationships, attachment, and communication

Connection, conflict, intimacy, responsibility, parenting, and the patterns created between people.

Self, identity, and personal growth

Identity, integrity, boundaries, shame, responsibility, differentiation, and change.

Therapy, mental health, and clinical practice

What changes in therapy, what the relationship contributes, and what psychological maps can and cannot do.

Mindfulness, embodiment, and everyday well-being

Attention, sensation, movement, health behavior, contemplative practice, creativity, and ordinary participation.

Meaning, philosophy, and spirituality

Freedom, limitation, suffering, purpose, perception, acceptance, and spiritual meaning without forced certainty.

Systems, culture, and collective life

Culture, context, institutions, information, economics, collective responsibility, and shared problems.

Different lenses, different information

How do different therapies approach the work?

The names below describe broad families, not sealed categories. Many therapists work across several traditions. The related articles are not textbook definitions of every model named. They show how Thoughts From a Therapist explores the questions those approaches make visible.

Thought, behavior, choice

Cognitive and behavioral approaches

CBT, DBT, ACT, solution-focused therapy, motivational interviewing, and behavioral activation attend to patterns among interpretation, emotion, action, values, and reinforcement. They ask what maintains a pattern and what becomes possible when awareness is joined by practice.

Understanding Anxiety Is Only the Beginning
Why Can’t I Change Even When I Understand My Patterns?
The Anxiety of Efficiency

Attachment, communication, feedback

Relational and systemic approaches

Attachment-based therapy, emotionally focused therapy, the Gottman Method, Bowen family systems, structural family therapy, and relational-cultural approaches locate distress within patterns of connection. They ask what happens between people, what the system reinforces, and how belonging shapes each person within it.

Interventions in Relational Counseling
How to Listen Empathically
What Is a Long-Term Relationship For?

Presence, emotion, lived contact

Experiential, humanistic, and depth approaches

Person-centered therapy, Gestalt therapy, emotion-focused therapy, psychodynamic work, Jungian psychology, and parts-oriented approaches attend to what becomes available in lived experience. They ask what has been disowned, defended against, or understood intellectually without yet being felt and integrated.

Using Immediacy in Therapy
Can AI Conduct Therapy?
Self of the Therapist: Core Dimensions

Story, identity, meaning, limit

Narrative and existential approaches

Narrative therapy, existential psychotherapy, logotherapy, and meaning-centered approaches attend to authorship, freedom, responsibility, mortality, and purpose. They ask which stories organize identity, what cannot be controlled, and how meaning is practiced within the conditions of an actual life.

The Realities of Rigid Identity
The Question of Enough
The Observer and the Observed

Body, protection, regulation

Somatic and trauma-informed approaches

Somatic Experiencing, EMDR, Sensorimotor Psychotherapy, Hakomi, trauma-focused approaches, and polyvagal-informed practice attend to sensation, activation, protection, memory, movement, and safety. They ask what the body learned and how physiological experience participates in meaning and change.

Somatic Descent Into the Hidden Narrative
State Shifting
The Snake in the Room

Awareness, acceptance, compassion

Mindfulness, compassion, and contemplative approaches

MBSR, MBCT, compassion-focused therapy, contemplative psychotherapy, and transpersonal approaches attend to our relationship with thought, emotion, awareness, and suffering. They ask whether experience can be observed and received without being suppressed, obeyed, or converted too quickly into certainty.

Analysis vs Observation
When Compassion Silences Self-Worth
Fear of Abandonment vs. Integrity

Multiple levels, one human system

Integrative, contextual, and systems approaches

Integrative psychotherapy, family systems, cultural and contextual therapies, community psychology, and ecological approaches resist reducing distress to one level. They ask how identity, relationship, body, culture, material conditions, and feedback loops participate together, then choose a workable starting point without mistaking it for the whole person.

An Integrative Alternative to the DSM
The Fractal Field of Mental Health
Strength Is Contextual

What part of experience is the approach helping us notice?

The useful question is often not which theory is correct, but which dimension of experience has become difficult to hear. A therapy can begin in one place while remaining accountable to the rest of the system.

Within the person

Identity, emotion, thought, sensation, memory, movement, and the protective adaptations that preserve continuity under constraint.

Between people

Attachment, communication, mutual regulation, conflict, belonging, power, repair, and the patterns no individual creates alone.

Across action, time, and context

Choice, restraint, timing, strategy, culture, material conditions, meaning, spirituality, creativity, and the larger systems within which a life unfolds.

A useful map helps us notice what has been missing. It becomes less useful when the map is mistaken for the person.

Continue through the writing

The guides above offer curated paths. The complete archive preserves the longer record of how these ideas have developed, changed, and returned in different forms.