Thoughts From a Therapist
Beliefs, Truths, Opinions, & Thoughts
Posts about how our thoughts affect our emotions and actions… suggests what you can do about it.
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Why Are We So Afraid of Artificial Intelligence?
Are we afraid of artificial intelligence, or of what we have already done with our own? A therapist on projection, ecology, and the fear…
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Why Am I Disappointed Even When Things Are Good?
Why am I disappointed even when things are good? Expectations, efficiency, and fixation on flaws can pull attention away from what matters most.
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Why Do I Feel Things I Know Are Irrational?
Why do I feel things I know are irrational? Thoughts, emotions, physiology, memory, and behavior can create and interrupt emotional feedback loops.
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How to Make Problems Navigable | Dialectic and Deconstruction Solutions
We can solve today’s problems. The method: find the viable entry point, stay humble about every solution’s next problem, and divide the work accountably.
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When Politics Isn’t Really About Politics: Curiosity, Culture, and the Operating Systems We Share
Most political arguments inside families aren’t really about politics. They’re a way of asking whether our value systems still overlap. A look at culture…
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The Economy Is a Game We All Live Inside
Basketball, Monopoly, and the Psychological Skill of Arguing the Other Side When we talk collectively about the economy, we rarely sound like a society…
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Most Disagreements Aren’t About the Facts
Two people can agree on every fact and still disagree about what to do. Not because one of them is wrong, but because they…
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Meditation Is the Practice of Returning
“I didn’t do it well” is the most common thing I hear about meditation. But every time your mind wanders and you return, you’ve…
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Understanding Anxiety Is Only the Beginning | The Gap Between Insight and Action
Understanding anxiety is only the beginning. Learn how insight, physiology, habits, and values work together to reduce anxiety by turning awareness into meaningful action.
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Guilt for Being Who We Are
Why do we feel guilty for simply being ourselves? Explore how empathy, early social experiences, and internalized “shoulds” can lead us to carry responsibility…
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The Anxiety of Efficiency
A reflection on the paradox of rushing in order to relax, and how efficiency can sometimes reproduce the very anxiety we are trying to…
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Contextual Intelligence and Political Identity
We treat liberal and conservative as fixed identities. They are better understood as contextual strategies — orientations toward flexibility or toward structure that become…
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Treading Water / the Addiction to Doing
Some people believe that if they stop kicking, they will drown. They are exhausted, and they also trust the effort more than the water.…
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The Realities of Rigid Identity
Rigid identity develops when beliefs become protective structures rather than flexible perspectives. Whether through victimhood, perfectionism, spiritual bypassing, or rigid religious and political identification,…
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Anxiety, Codependence, and What It Actually Means to Try in a Relationship
Anxiety and codependence often shape how we try in relationships. This piece explores the difference between effort that builds connection and effort that quietly…
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The Question of Enough | Stimulation, Fulfillment, and the Physiology of Contentment
One pattern I see repeatedly — in my office and in my own life — is the question of enough. Not the familiar concern…
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Love, Acceptance, and Growth | What Real Love Actually Asks of Us
Love involves more than blind acceptance; it requires balance between acceptance and growth. Authentic love respects individual uniqueness while also encouraging partners to develop…
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Fear of Abandonment vs. Integrity | Choosing Which Fear We Live With
The text explores the conflict between fear of abandonment, fear of death, and fear of self-betrayal during social situations, particularly in risky activities like…
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When Compassion Silences Self-Worth
The content emphasizes the importance of balancing compassion for others with self-advocacy. Uncontrolled compassion can lead to self-abandonment and resentment, undermining true empathy. Healthy…
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The Observer and the Observed
Detaching from identity through acceptance of our contradictions Hello. Let’s use the observer to notice our attachments to identity. When I was in college,…
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