Thoughts From a Therapist
Beliefs, Truths, Opinions, & Thoughts
Posts about how our thoughts affect our emotions and actions… suggests what you can do about it.
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Adversity and Advocacy: When Suffering Stops Building Strength
The piece discusses the balance between teaching patience and empowerment in the face of adversity. While challenges can foster growth, excessive or nonsensical adversity…
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Codependence and the Quiet Agreement Not to Grow
The content explores how comfort can create a codependent environment that stifles personal growth. It highlights that prioritizing stability often leads to enabling behaviors,…
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Dialectic and Deconstruction Solutions: summary/outline
DDS is a collaborative platform that organizes and makes visible existing solutions to major human problems. By utilizing deconstruction, dialectics, and solution design, it…
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Do the Ends Justify the Means?
This content emphasizes the importance of aligning our actions with personal values while pursuing goals. It argues that compromising values can lead to internal…
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Strength Is Contextual
Strength is not a singular trait but a contextual movement toward personal balance. It emerges differently for hyper-empowered individuals, who may need restraint, and…
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Curiosity Without Judgment: Understanding the Adaptive Logic of Our Behavior
The article explores the importance of distinguishing between judgmental and curious forms of questioning when reflecting on our behaviors. It emphasizes that understanding the…
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Dialectic and Deconstruction Solutions (DDS) 1st Draft
Dialectic and Deconstruction Solutions (DDS) offers a framework for cultural repair by promoting thoughtful engagement and collective intelligence. It aims to address coherence issues…
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Interviening with Extremism
This piece examines the emotional roots of extremist beliefs, highlighting trauma, shame, and the need for belonging as key drivers. It emphasizes that change…
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Resilience, Humility, and the Temptation to Be Neurotic
Resilience involves embracing uncomfortable emotions like shame and guilt rather than avoiding them. True resilience is relational, allowing for emotional presence and accountability, particularly…
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The Practice of Differentiation: Becoming the Observer of Ourselves
Differentiation is the ability to observe our inner life without being consumed by it. In this post, we explore how becoming the witness to…
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Spiral Dynamics and Political Polarization: Why We Struggle to Govern Across Worldviews
How do we govern a nation when its citizens live in entirely different existential frameworks? This post explores Spiral Dynamics as a lens for…
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The Dialectic of Courage
Courage exists on a spectrum and requires balance, as both underdevelopment and overdevelopment can lead to issues. It is a crucial emotional capacity that…
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Analysis vs Observation
This post contrasts sensation analysis with simple observation. Analysis categorizes and deducts, often distancing us from direct experience. In contrast, observation focuses on present…
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Anxiety as a Signal of Misalignment
Existential anxiety signals misalignment between our lives and core values. Rather than aiming to eliminate it, we should interpret anxiety as a message indicating…
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Does laziness cause depression or does depression cause laziness?
The content explores whether laziness causes depression or vice versa, suggesting a complex relationship. It lists 20 behaviors that might unintentionally promote depression and…
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Choice and quality of life | What choice, if removed, would most positively impact your well being?
The United States encompasses various sub-cultures influenced by a dominant meta-culture emphasizing freedom and choice. This dual nature of choice can lead to both…
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The Relativity of Oppression
Oppression exists, and much like other abstractions, oppression is often cognitively enmeshed with content or with something more concrete. There is often a more…
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Happy Relationship – loving another as yourself – loving we to love me
A relationship is a system… it is a whole with interconnecting parts – and the whole ends up being greater than the sum of…
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Choice is Oppression
Wow that is a provocative way to start! of course Choice is also liberation and a billion of other things, but in the post…
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